I only ever use strobes with my newborn/baby photos, I use a 250watt strobe with a large 80 by 120cm softbox and i never have power above 1/4 for babys and always have the srobe at least 1.5 to 2 mts from bub, ive never had problems with any mum refusing to have photos done due to strobes... I wouldnt do anything to anothers child that i wouldnt allow anyone to do with mine.