Well I've done some comparisons in lightroom between the raw files (that were simply exported and sent) and the prints. It seems if I increase the white balance by around 1200-1400K, take the brightness down 25pts and the saturation down 10pts and they match up pretty well. The whites on my monitor are still brighter and more white but the overall image is pretty close. Same applied for both daylight and night shots, here are a pair of examples so you can see the relative difference I'm seeing. In both cases the first image was my version, the second shows what the print is like. Am I expecting too much, or should these be closer?