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ricstew
26-03-2011, 12:14pm
is my most frequently asked question.......no I don't is the answer.......but.........the pressure is on...
Why don't you do weddings.....? ummmmm houses don't whinge, cry or throw up on me? Hmmm I cant say that.....so why not?.......I will think about it......

So why don't I want to do it? I know the families, the venues, ( yes plural )........I did some many years ago in film plus debs and stuff...I didn't stress out then.......whats holding me back now?

The opportunity is there.....

cheers
Jan

steve munro
26-03-2011, 12:25pm
You have a choice and you choose not to do them. I work professionally with the moving image and consider myself to be quite a camera-##### in that I'll film most things...except weddings. Someone asked me that question the other day - "why not?" and I couldn't really answer them except for I choose not to. They pressed for greater detail (maybe they wanted to hear the camera-snob in me come out) but I realised there need not be any other answer than "I choose not to". When the choice is no longer afforded to me then I may re-evaluate my opinion but while I have the option of choice then I choose to exercise it :lol:
Steve

bb45pz
26-03-2011, 12:55pm
I always use the line "I don't have enough backup if something goes wrong". Backup gear, backup photographer if I have an accident or I'm sick etc etc. It's also a chance to point them towards the advantages of using a specialist wedding tog.

That's not really mentioning anything about my lack of experience in the area also :D

Xenedis
26-03-2011, 2:58pm
I don't, and won't, shoot weddings.

For starters, photographically, they're not interesting to me.

Additionally, there are actual wedding photographers out there, who do that stuff for a living. There's too much work, a lot of pressure, it's a hugely significant day in most people's lives, and given there are people out there who have interest in that field, as well as the necessary experience and demeanour to handle it, it's best left to them IMO.

At a wedding, I'd rather be a guest than a photographer.

Longshots
26-03-2011, 4:41pm
I have, I do them occassionally. I actually enjoy the actual photography day/s, but dont relish the production systems required afterwards.

mongo
26-03-2011, 4:49pm
.....so do you " do " weddings??

Yes, but only in the capacity of a free foraging invitee (the food and drink is usually excellent) . All that other photographic stuff can be done by someone who wants the responsibility of not disappointing highly emotional (and some times over demanding/unrealistic) B&Gs. You have been warned.

Only exceptions to this story are if you are someone like PaulMac who has exceptional talent in this area; appears to do it for a living; and seems to love doing his work.

William
26-03-2011, 5:03pm
Yes/No , Not anymore !! been there done that , To much stress, And PP afterwards , How do you think they would feel if you said , Sorry , I stuffed up can you do it again !! No way thats going to happen, So now I just say no thanks , Being back up would be good with the food and drinks thrown in :D

arthurking83
26-03-2011, 10:22pm
I'd like to do one(maybe two). Only for the purpose of 'experience'. I know that this type of photography is of no interest to me in any way. I would do one(or two) as a favour, interest only to see what the fuss/excitement is all about, and only by invitation to do so.. but as I see fit, and believe it should be done. Yeah, all abstract and weird looking.

Would I say no to (wedding)offers I'm not interested in? Yep! for sure. Why? because!!

... because I'm not really interested, would only be seeking to indulge with the right people, situation, event and ceremony type, and location.

Besides .. it's very hard to use a macro lens with reversed lens attached to the front thread to get 3x magnification .... in a wedding environment! :D

kiwi
26-03-2011, 10:29pm
Yes, not a lot, but 3 or 4 a year if they come to me based on a recommendation. As said before Im pretty comfortable doing them with what I think is all the necessary backups etc. I dont think im a wedding photographer per se, but I do enjoy them, and so far so good re happy couples. A bit self defeating but Ill say that I think Im an average photographer, but get the job done. I can only get better as time passes but I wouldnt even dream of taking a wedding on unless I thought I was "ready" and "able"

kiwi
26-03-2011, 10:36pm
oh, talking about weddings

check this one out

http://www.rachelthurston.com/blog/?p=5188

arthurking83
26-03-2011, 10:48pm
That is definitely the coolest wedding(and set of images) I've seen :th3:

Wayne
26-03-2011, 11:35pm
I did one for a very close friend, my first one. It was a terrible experience, but much of that was my friends lack of co-operation, planning and time allocation. I was given 20 mins to do formal pics, the crowd of guests during the ceremony were seated and standing all around the B&G and celebrant with no aisle, no passage etc to get into any decent position for taking pics, and most all of the guests didn't care one bit if they were impeding my access. It is something I never really wanted to get into, and doing that one and only wedding simply confirmed my lack of interest and desire, even though in that country town there was plenty of opportunity to make good $$ and many people asking would I also do theirs.

I'm not a patient man by anyones measure, and dealing with overly difficult, demanding or self obsessed brides and grooms is something I neither need or want. I would simply refuse to deal with them.

Art Vandelay
27-03-2011, 12:08am
I'd do weddings if the market evolved to a point it was acceptable for the photographer to just hang out in the carpark and catch what he can through the windows with a 600 f/4.

Hats off to those that "do weddings" properly. :th3: It's not one of the genres you can stuff up and do it again next week....

JM Tran
27-03-2011, 12:20am
Just got back home from a lovely wedding shoot - 12 hours with my 2nd photographer, lovely young Croatian couple

I love weddings, because Im great at it, and I thrive under pressure and I see weddings as the ultimate test of professional photography - it is a combination of portraiture, fashion, landscape, photojournalism, macro etc all rolled into one day, or within 5 mins of each other depending on the situation. I see it as a test of creativity and spontaneity and discipline, how to improvise and make something from nothing, how to direct and pose the 'models', how to create and visualize compositions and lines to form something in front of the lens. I like the pressure and demands because I like being challenged like back when I was serving in the Army.

Although I enjoy it, weddings are only my secondary genre of professional work, fashion/editorial and travel docos being my main focus. Will post up some wedding pics of today later:)

steve munro
27-03-2011, 2:52am
@JM Tran - you have class :D Loved the way you put that (although I'd have to disagree with weddings being the ultimate test of professional photography, I like how you pitched it as going into battle...:D)
Steve

Analog6
27-03-2011, 9:00am
Additionally, there are actual wedding photographers out there, who do that stuff for a living. There's too much work, a lot of pressure, it's a hugely significant day in most people's lives, and given there are people out there who have interest in that field, as well as the necessary experience and demeanour to handle it, it's best left to them IMO.

The pressure I fond frightening and I am always a bit people shy. That said, I'd love to have a go but it would have to be a very small affair and only if I got to know the coupe and could meet them well beforehand, be in on the planning and do some pre-wedding tests to see if they liked my work. I'd be so afraid of letting the couple down on that most important day.

I believe I could do a good job, but not at some huge shindig.

ricstew
27-03-2011, 9:46am
Isn't it odd.......most of us would like to have a go........but don't trust ourselves to do the perfect job.......wouldn't it be cool to set up some practice! My personal position is that there are a couple of excellent wedding photographers locally but all I hear is ........insert whinging voice here........." they are toooooo expensive " ( yeah right....do you know what goes into shooting a wedding??...I also know you booked into the most expensive local venue ). So slap me over the head with a wet fish!
Dunno......maybe if I could set up some pre wedding stuff ........
Waynes story send shivers up my spine......time restraints/lack of organisation are the greatest fear for me!

arthurking83
27-03-2011, 9:52am
I'd love to see some of this Macro wedding photography .. but then again I'm probably more fussy when it comes to descriptions of genres.

I'm not entirely convinced on the merit of comment that wedding photography is the ultimate test of professional photography .. I've seen many professional photography genres that appear to be a lot harder to conquer than weddings, but once again, I believe I have a broader mindset when it comes to photography, and that is, I don't just concentrate on aspect of photography whether it's done as a profession, concerted hobby activity or spontaneous endeavour.

para
27-03-2011, 9:53am
Have done a few weddings,like to keep it to a few a year.The 1st one Idid I had less than 24 hours to think about it,which was a good thing.

WhoDo
27-03-2011, 10:24am
Do I "do weddings"? No, but I have done one wedding (http://www.ausphotography.net.au/forum/showthread.php?68059-The-Royal-Wedding) although not as the official 'tog(s) of the day! I think I did a good job in the circumstances but have to say that the amount of work involved is staggering, considering the relatively modest return most 'togs receive from weddings.

I want to enjoy my chosen "art form", not end up resenting it as a chore that must be completed so I can eat. If I made a little money from it along the way it might help pay for the GAS, but I'm not looking for that and hats off to those who tackle it seriously in that cause.

Jan, "Just say NO" and "No means NO" are two excellent pieces of advice in your situation. This sounds very much like a case of wanting one's wedding cake and eating it too for these people. Do a Winston Churchill and hold two fingers up in a V for victory sign while proclaiming "I will NEVER surrender"! :D

JM Tran
27-03-2011, 11:29am
I'd love to see some of this Macro wedding photography .. but then again I'm probably more fussy when it comes to descriptions of genres.

I'm not entirely convinced on the merit of comment that wedding photography is the ultimate test of professional photography .. I've seen many professional photography genres that appear to be a lot harder to conquer than weddings, but once again, I believe I have a broader mindset when it comes to photography, and that is, I don't just concentrate on aspect of photography whether it's done as a profession, concerted hobby activity or spontaneous endeavour.

Think of ring shots, jewellery etc, close ups like that, thought it was a bit obvious to u:)

I believe wedding photography is the hardest test as you are shooting for someone's future with only 1 shot at it, you are under pressure and demands to constantly deliver, and usually a lawsuit or an appearance on ACA or Today Tonight or career suicide in your local area if you stuff it up. Hey if you guys know of something that incorporates more genres into a day's shoot, and is harder mentally and physically let me know, Im just giving my opinion here.

I believe there are physically and mentally harder gigs, like being an embedded journalist traveling with a front line unit in Iraq in 2003 or being in the midst of a global disaster. But that is different, and not something that is easily accessible to everybody and most people would never get the chance to play photojournalist. With weddings, anyone can be a wedding photographer:D

Dylan & Marianne
27-03-2011, 11:49am
Done quite a few now- one of the things Marianne and I are learning are to take on that privelege and share in the happiness as part of the day - that has helped us relax and shoot without so much pressure on ourselves worrying about technicalities - the technical aspects we have largely sorted in order to make sure the necessary images are taken for the day, and the rest of it is trying to have fun sharing the day with the Bridal part & guests. I do really like the shoot on the day but I must admit, the PP grind afterward does get very tedious especially when coming home to do it after a day of the regular work. Can't see myself doing any more than the 1 every month or so that we get at maximum. I'd rather be attempting to run landscape workshops!

Chilli
27-03-2011, 11:54am
Love the wedding link...what a fun couple and fun day....thanks for sharing.

arthurking83
27-03-2011, 12:06pm
Think of ring shots, jewellery etc, close ups like that, thought it was a bit obvious to u:).......

LOL Jackie .. I've never considered closely focused images in the same genre as macro, where macro is clearly defined as 1:1 reproduction ratio, but loosely regarded to encompass magnifications of up to 1:3.

Physically, just about anything is difficult for myself, as I have a slight disability to take into consideration. Mental stress is something I've never really experienced in photography related terms, so I can't really help in that sense.

As for the notion that you are shooting for someone's future, having now been there, and elsewhere, and so with the benefit of hindsight behind me, I can assure you that this is not the big deal that many folk seem to think it is(in the grand scheme of marriage, family, and the future prospects that relate to this entire journey. The images captured during the wedding ceremony itself generally have a very short 'half life' when compared to all the other aspects that make for a successful(or not) family future. They'll get stored in an prominent space in the image storage receptacle, until kids come along, and as the family album size increases over the medium term the first thing that gets relegated to the suitcase under the bed(due to increasing space demands and limited availability of such) is the wedding albums. Then on the other hand after separation, the fight then turns to who's taking responsibility over specific assets, and the wedding album doesn't ever rate a mention.
This is just a single perspective as to this apparent importance that wedding photography really has as an overall impact on the future of a prospective couple/family.

As for physically more demanding pro photography.. many sports/wildlife photography situations that I've seen make wedding photography seem like a lazy evening at a spa resort by comparison. In fact, a few images I've personally seen by our member HelmutK and the difficult conditions he had to deal with to get them is probably something I'm sure you'd never want to deal with.
For a more mentally difficult task(that I know of, not done personally) is one of a pro photographer that posted images of the dead sea scrolls a few years back and the mental challenge of getting the images to an acceptable level for a large world wide scientific community within a limited time frame.
(I know form his brief technical explanation, that this in itself would have done my head in to the point where I'd have given up sooner rather than later).

I understand what you are trying to imply, and I'm not simply contradicting with the notion that wedding photography is easy ... I know I couldn't do it(physically) for more than a few hours(disability limitation!).. but it's far from the most difficult or stressful pro photography experience.

JM Tran
27-03-2011, 12:26pm
LOL Jackie .. I've never considered closely focused images in the same genre as macro, where macro is clearly defined as 1:1 reproduction ratio, but loosely regarded to encompass magnifications of up to 1:3.

Physically, just about anything is difficult for myself, as I have a slight disability to take into consideration. Mental stress is something I've never really experienced in photography related terms, so I can't really help in that sense.

As for the notion that you are shooting for someone's future, having now been there, and elsewhere, and so with the benefit of hindsight behind me, I can assure you that this is not the big deal that many folk seem to think it is(in the grand scheme of marriage, family, and the future prospects that relate to this entire journey. The images captured during the wedding ceremony itself generally have a very short 'half life' when compared to all the other aspects that make for a successful(or not) family future. They'll get stored in an prominent space in the image storage receptacle, until kids come along, and as the family album size increases over the medium term the first thing that gets relegated to the suitcase under the bed(due to increasing space demands and limited availability of such) is the wedding albums. Then on the other hand after separation, the fight then turns to who's taking responsibility over specific assets, and the wedding album doesn't ever rate a mention.
This is just a single perspective as to this apparent importance that wedding photography really has as an overall impact on the future of a prospective couple/family.

As for physically more demanding pro photography.. many sports/wildlife photography situations that I've seen make wedding photography seem like a lazy evening at a spa resort by comparison. In fact, a few images I've personally seen by our member HelmutK and the difficult conditions he had to deal with to get them is probably something I'm sure you'd never want to deal with.
For a more mentally difficult task(that I know of, not done personally) is one of a pro photographer that posted images of the dead sea scrolls a few years back and the mental challenge of getting the images to an acceptable level for a large world wide scientific community within a limited time frame.
(I know form his brief technical explanation, that this in itself would have done my head in to the point where I'd have given up sooner rather than later).

I understand what you are trying to imply, and I'm not simply contradicting with the notion that wedding photography is easy ... I know I couldn't do it(physically) for more than a few hours(disability limitation!).. but it's far from the most difficult or stressful pro photography experience.

But Arthur, my point was about the acessibility of wedding photography and how it is hard as it incorporates a lot of genres, many of those who focus or excel solely in 1 genre tend to, and have found it hard when they switched over to do wedding photography because instead of knowing and being good at 1 thing, you now have to take into account many other things - not to mention the mother of all professional wedding photography - COMMUNICATIONS SKILLS - being a professional at photography in varying aspects does not mean you possess the quality to communicate, command and control crowds or demanding people. Its not for the shy or introverted.


As for the notion that you are shooting for someone's future, having now been there, and elsewhere, and so with the benefit of hindsight behind me, I can assure you that this is not the big deal that many folk seem to think it is(in the grand scheme of marriage, family, and the future prospects that relate to this entire journey. The images captured during the wedding ceremony itself generally have a very short 'half life' when compared to all the other aspects that make for a successful(or not)

I know that its not important in the grand scheme of things, 30-40 years later. But we are talking about the now, and the aftermath - people and clients these days are much more consumer savvy and demand quality for their products if they are paying big bucks for it. Being sued or going to air over accusations was such a rarity decades ago over wedding photography, but its a common practice these days. If you fail!


In fact, a few images I've personally seen by our member HelmutK and the difficult conditions he had to deal with to get them is probably something I'm sure you'd never want to deal with.

with all due respect to him, however it may seem hard - its not really an open and easily accessible job or hobby to many. Yeah Ive stalked animals and humans during my time hunting and in the Army and to 'shoot' them, but that is more so patience and technical skills. It really it a very focused genre. I dont think he has to deal with other external factors like people talking to him or telling him what to do or run by a timetable. Given that wildlife and hunting shots may only have a small time frame to capture something, you can just repeat it over and over. The wildlife expert does not have to conjure up something creative, or make something from nothing happen.


For a more mentally difficult task(that I know of, not done personally) is one of a pro photographer that posted images of the dead sea scrolls a few years back and the mental challenge of getting the images to an acceptable level for a large world wide scientific community within a limited time frame.
(I know form his brief technical explanation, that this in itself would have done my head in to the point where I'd have given up sooner rather than later).


As above, another solely technical photoshoot, get it right - and just rinse and repeat, and repeat, and repeat. It is also very focused on achieving a very specific task, unless the said photographer wanted to add some creativity, by tilting some shots, desaturate some pics, make a snazzy collage out of it:D

In summary, there are those who handle pressure and expectations much better than others, but it is something that has to be developed - you cant expect to handle anything well your first time around. So I will say that if you would like to try weddings, go out and try it and learn how to handle pressure and improve upon it. Who knows, you might end up really good at weddings, or handling pressure and be a general one day:th3:

ricstew
27-03-2011, 3:15pm
Trust me Whodo......I am running as fast as I can! After reading the last two posts.... they have totally scared me off! I have seen the crying bride, screaming MIL and the stoned groomsmen......as well as the disappearing groom ( but we were laying odds on him finding the groomsmen :rolleyes:)
I dont fancy trying to work with them.......

Xenedis
27-03-2011, 5:59pm
At the end of the day, if you're not comfortable shooting someone's wedding, decline the invitation.

Without meaning any disrespect to your abilities as a photographer, just because someone owns a camera does not mean that person is fit to be a wedding photographer, in much the same way that owning a scalpel doesn't mean one is fit to perform surgery.

Jackie is right in that being a wedding photographer is far more about communication than photography, but clearly you need to be able to do both, and do them well.

Dylan & Marianne
27-03-2011, 6:31pm
I may be a doctor but you definitely don't want a scalpel in my hands for instance
Just like many photographers -they can take photographs but you defintiely don't want some ( and they don't want to be ) at a wedding doing the pro shots :)

jeffde
30-03-2011, 7:36pm
Hi Jan
Happy to work with you - you can 2nd for me until you have the confiidence and then i'll 2nd for your first few (its bnice to have back up for your first few)
I'm close if you getting asked we can work together...

ricstew
01-04-2011, 8:41am
Your a game man Jeff!:action53: pm sent
cheers
Jan

para
02-04-2011, 9:23am
Nice offer Jeff

Xebadir
02-04-2011, 9:47am
Don't be afraid Jan, just be confident in your abilities and willing to learn. Jackie does a few things really well besides being creative, and one aspect of that is using his communication skills and getting the couple comfortable and relaxed so that the photos just flow. Having had the chance to work with him I can honestly say that once you see it done that way its far better than the alternative approaches you see. You just have to be confident that given the situation you can get the technical aspects right, and the rest really flows provided you have the right mindset, personality and are creative enough to stand out. The ability to organise people while still remaining polite is definitely a positive skill to have.

I've done a few weddings as first tog, a few as second and have done some unofficial photos where there have been dramas with the wedding photographer or I have been asked by a close friend (refuse to work for a close friend in an official capacity as I feel too involved in the situation). And I have enjoyed those opportunities greatly and enjoyed the priveledge of shooting a day that means alot (even if the results may not in time). I tend to agree with Jackie that part of the attraction is the versatility of shooting required in order to cover a wedding, I tend not to agree monsigneur AK wth respect to wildlife and sports though. You are generally shooting with a single, fixed focal/long focal length lens, and the greatest difficulty is just dealing with light and happening to stumble on the animal, or keeping track of the moment in sports. But your not having to adjust where you are anywhere near as much as a wedding. Its a rare day that a wildlife photographer changes to a wide angle, a macro and a portrait lens as well as a long lens in the space of a few hours, and even the very best get few opportunities for this. Not trying to take anything away from the degree of difficulty, but do feel these ares lack the versatility that a wedding has to offer.

Either way, its worth a try to see how you go as a second photographer, if you don't like it then you know, and will know at least you have tried it.

mocallaghan
18-04-2011, 10:11pm
Dunno......maybe if I could set up some pre wedding stuff ........

That sounds good - i've tried to coordinate some friends to do it, and we can't find time together to do it.

Dan Cripps
19-04-2011, 9:27am
After 100+ weddings over the last 4-5 years, I'm having a break from them.

You have to love it otherwise (like any job) it's a little bit soul destroying.

Dylan & Marianne
19-04-2011, 3:01pm
Just my 2c on comparing shooting weddings with other genres.
The pressure for me at weddings is the pressure of getting the right shots, at the right moment at the right angles, technically correct and for someone else.The pressure for me when shooting landscapes for any given light is that like weddings, I may only ever have the one shot at it (for a given scene with given lighting on the day), but unlike weddings, I can feel free to experiment as much as I want. I still feel disappointed if I didn't nail that shot from that location, but knowing that I'm the only one who will be disappointed just takes that much pressure off.

Different pressures, different skills and different mindset.
Both just as challenging for me and personally, the reward for a great landscape shoot is more intrinsic whereas the reward for a great wedding shoot is the pleasure of seeing others happy with your work.